Socializing, friends, and close relationships are very important to anyone — with or without diabetes. I have never been shy about living with diabetes, and am always happy to talk about it with anyone who will listen. Usually the person I am dating already knows about my diabetes, as I am usually pretty open about talking about it with people. Usually, I say I have type 1 diabetes, and have had it for over 12 years, since January 3rd, Then it is a lot of questions and answers back and forth until the other person feels they understand enough. I tell a significant other or someone I care about just about everything there is to know about living with type 1. In my eyes, there is no reason to hold anything back and I want to be very open with the other person.
Diabetes is characterized by high levels of glucose sugar in the blood. Problems are caused by a hormone called insulin that takes sugar out of the blood and stores it in body cells. There are two common types of the disease. Type 1 diabetes was previously called juvenile diabetes because it typically was first diagnosed in children and young adults. Most people with this kind of diabetes will need insulin shots for life. The majority of people who develop diabetes later in life will get the other common type, type 2 diabetes; these people often need medication to maintain the right amount of blood sugar.
A type 1 writer shares what she’s learned about dating and diabetes.
Long-term problems from high blood sugar High blood sugar over a long period of time, such as months or years, causes damage to body organs. This damage is not usually seen for 10 years or longer. Taking care of your diabetes and keeping most of your blood sugars near the normal range throughout your life lowers your chance for these long-term problems. Follow the instructions for taking extra insulin. There are many reasons your blood sugar can go too high. It is important to know what causes high blood sugar and why high blood sugar is dangerous.
The nurses can help figure out the reason for the high blood sugar and suggest changes in insulin, exercise, or eating to help the high blood sugar come down. Ketones are an acid that can build up in the body when your body uses fat instead of sugar for energy. Ketones are caused from the breakdown of fat. Ketones harm the body. If you have small, moderate, or large ketones, take extra rapid-acting insulin and drink lots of carbohydrate-free drinks right away.
When ketones are large and stay large 4 or more hours, the amount of acid in your body is very high.
For a little over a month now I have been dating a young man with type 1 diabetes. I am slowly learning things, like its good to have soda around for when he gets hypoglycemic, and sometimes he wakes up in the middle of the night for a snack. He has had type 1 diabetes for fourteen years and seems to manage it really well.
I havent really seen anything too scary yet. The only thing was two nights ago his blood sugar spiked really fast and really high.
With the same smart planning you use before embarking on other activities, dating with diabetes need not be more challenging than dating itself. When Tia Deverts told her family that her then-boyfriend, Jim Pettit, had been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, they asked, “Are you going to continue to date him? Why wouldn’t I? By then, he and Deverts had been dating for two years. He wasn’t at all surprised by her reaction.
They married in September , and make their home in Arlington, Va. Sysy Morales, 29, of Roanoke, Va. Like the Pettits, her story of dating with diabetes has a happy ending: She’s been married to Alex Munoz for four years, and they have 3-year-old twins, a boy and a girl. Others, however, say that dating with diabetes isn’t always easy.
In her blog, “The Girl’s Guide to Diabetes,” Morales writes that a lot of that difficulty may be in your head. When you have type 1 diabetes, for instance, you’re afraid that a love interest won’t see you as sexy, especially if you have an insulin pump attached to your body. The biggest issue for those with diabetes is often when to tell the person they’re dating about their disease. On the first date? Only after it looks like your relationship may be going somewhere?
Now, I realize this can seem a little silly because good people in the world will love you no matter what characteristics you have even being half robotic with a dead pancreas , but feeling different from people with a working pancreas can impact your confidence level immensely, especially in your younger years. I used to feel like my diabetes would hinder my chance at love.
I would wonder what people would think to see my pump on my stomach, or how a boy would react to me testing my blood sugar if he had never witnessed something like that before. Adam: Hello, Readers! We have been together for just over two years now and it has been wonderful every step of the way.
This year, I celebrated my year anniversary with type 1 diabetes. Funny, right? So when it comes to dating, I like to tell potential BFs about my diabetes early to minimize their surprise and my anxiety over it, too. When I whip out a lancet a tiny device I use to prick my finger for blood sugar tests during a candlelit dinner, I like to offer a simple explanation to my date. Case in point: my first date.
I was a freshman in high school, and a senior I had a crush on asked me to dinner. My blood sugar ended up getting super high, and I got really tired, headache-y, and just felt totally out of it.
Susan sounded unsure if she should get into a relationship having Type 1 diabetes. She used words like, “burden,” and phrases like “it might be.
Please mind – every topic is an article of its own. For more related articles please hover over a topic and further subtopics to explore everything that Diabetes Daily has to offer. However, dating is something many romantic relics still do—going out to dinner, opening a bottle of wine or sparkling water, and having face-to-face conversations in the hopes that we might find someone we want to spend more time and energy with.
So, how does a person go about the delicate two-step of disclosing that you have diabetes while dating? Ultimately, when we risk being vulnerable with a new person, we all have to consider what we share about ourselves and when. For many, owning our health status front and center allows us to separate the winners from the losers.
Today, I don’t hide my diabetes from my dates. I’d rather know from the start if he has an issue with my health issue. That way I don’t waste time with someone who isn’t compassionate. Photo: Unsplash, Abby Orcutt.
Manhattan and I quickly noticed the signs of his hypo his temples started beading with sweat and he got that ghostly pale-ness.
Picture this. He is out every night, meeting new friends by the minute. He is young, bright-eyed, kind-hearted, a dreamer, an optimist. Life is full of freedom and free of responsibility. He tries to brush it aside and goes about his days until he starts losing weight and the insatiable thirst kicks in. For reasons no one fully understands, his immune system has attacked the beta cells in his pancreas and this vital organ has stopped producing life-saving insulin.
He has done nothing wrong. He is young, fit and the picture of health but his body has failed him. This monster is called type 1 diabetes T1D. And he is my big brother, my hero.
You landed the date. Nabbed a reservation at a nice restaurant. Even wore that fancy shirt that looks great but sort of itches. Your comfort level, your date, and a dozen other factors will influence how and when you tell. The biggest concern most people with diabetes have is that a date will stop liking them once diabetes is in the picture. Which is to say, your date probably won’t be freaking out as much as you are when you mention your diabetes.
Type 1 has put us in situations as a couple that we wouldn’t have been through If I didn’t have diabetes. It’s not very often that the guy you’re dating has to pour.
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I have lived most of my life without type 1 diabetes, but at the age of 23, low and behold I was diagnosed with it. This changed every aspect of my life. I basically had to relearn how to simply do anything: sleep, eat, walk, travel, exercise, and of course, DATE. To be honest, this has always been a struggle for me. I am guilty of doing both. And actually, both ways have turned out fine.
I was able to learn from them and decide how I like to handle opening up to someone.
Not trying to worry me, he asked me to please find him some sugar as he was experiencing a sudden low blood sugar. One Snickers bar and a and of orange juice later he was back to being the strong, healthy joker I was growing more and more fond of. Fast forward a couple of months and we were now making a life for ourselves in the Big Apple.
I remember our first date. He showed up at my place clutching a bag of pretzels and a 2 liter bottle of Coke Light. We settled on the sofa to watch one of two movies — his favourite Old School and my favourite Kill Bill , munching and sipping away at the sugar-free drink. I remember focusing more on the proximity of his body to mine than on the scenes playing off on the box in front of us!
Between movies we decided to head across the road for a pizza and a glass of wine. Also, he was so casual about it, explaining as he administered his insulin shot at the table why he had to take insulin, how it brought down his blood glucose levels and giving me the background. My heart ached for the three-year-old version of himself that received this diagnosis. We went back to my place, watched the second movie and he kissed me goodbye at the door on his way home.
My knees were wobbly. Fast forward a couple of dates and I had my first real diabetes-related worry. Wrapped in the throes of early romance my man was perfect — in every imaginable way. We were hanging out somewhere when I all of a sudden realised that he had gone quite pale and that, despite the cool Cape Town breeze, he was sweating. A lot. Not trying to worry me, he asked me to please find him some sugar as he was experiencing a sudden low blood sugar.